Bad refereeing

I have been a coach for twenty years at the college level. Over twenty years of coaching basketball, (men's and women's), softball, and baseball I have witnessed the disintegration of officiating in thses sports. This is particularly clear in basketball. In our society those that argue with officiating are seen as aggressive, over bearing, and complainers. Let me be clear that in twenty years of coaching I have received seven technical fouls and not one was caused by a swear word. I have never been thrown out of or even warned in baseball or softball. Therefore, with this record I believe that I gain some credibility in my critique of the erosion of refereeing. I have three athletic children and with the exception of soccer I have seen the same issues at sub-college levels of athletics as well. My question is what is a coach to do? Especially, when you coach at the small college level in rural Vermont, New Hampshire, and Western Massachusetts? Over the last couple of years there has been a significant drop in not only the level of skill but also the tolerance shown byofficials when a disagreement occurs. I have actually received technicals in the last year for saying a call is "bogus" and " ridiculous" after repeatedly feeling as though calls were bungled and bit my tongue. I also have found that trying to ask a question about a call is taken as an afront. Good referees explain calls, answer questions, and are clear and consistent with the way the call a game. I just coached in a tournament and (for those of you that know basketball this will be easier understood) my team played zone for the whole game and the opposition played man and we shot eleven foul shots and the other team went to the line thirty-two times. Both teams shot about the same percentage and my team was outscored by nineteen points in a game that we lost in overtime. Thanks, for reading and i welcome your feedback unlike most referees.
JEWOOD